Transmission from the 1 of December 2024
Dear all,
I wish you the happiest first day of December, the last month of the year 2024. One of the hardest, most transformative, confusing, but the most loving years of our lives.
As we come towards the end of the year, we find ourselves reflecting upon what happened, what we learned, what changed, what went as planned, what went an absolutely different road than we initially planned, but ended up being much better than we could have imagined.
Allow yourself to be a beginner
In today’s world, the pressure seems so high to perform, to have everything under control, to have it “figured out”. Needing a therapist is seen as a weakness, even though the tables are turning now. In a world where the attention span is so short, where influences have been multiplied by hundreds, we can easily feel like we cannot make mistakes anymore. We do not have time to learn anymore and we should master everything since the first time we try. But how realistic is this view?
It is very easy to feel like we cannot make mistakes because it seems like everyone judges so quickly nowadays. No one has time, everyone has places to be, and so if we make a mistake and God forbid repeat this mistake, who would want to deal with us? Who would rely on us? Who would have enough patience with us? The expectations got so high, that we need to worry about eating clean, eating organic, let’s not even mention protein, exercising, but exercising to look a certain way, hike, dress stylish, care about the environment, have enough friends, behave a certain way, have a job that is “useful”, but also gives enough money etc. Does your head turn? Mine for sure does. Expectations are so high that we cannot breathe. All these things are indeed very beneficial for our health, but not when they are used as a punishment. Not when they are used as some kind of metric that is displayed in front of our eyes all the time and truly bully us. We bully each other because no one can live up to the standard that we are creating for ourselves.
When times get hard when the sky is full of dark clouds, we put on our armour, we prepare for the worst, we prepare for the fight. But it is exactly the moment, the opportunity to open our hearts instead, to hug our loved ones, to soften and to open up. Together.
What are your influences?
While dealing with so many external influences, we need to realise, or better say remember, that our minds, bodies and souls are pristine. We are children of God and as such, our spirit is pure. We need to give enormous care to what we let into our bodies and our space. Not only what we eat, but what we see, what we hear, what we read, whose opinion we let into our space. As I mentioned previously, we do not only have our physical bodies, we have also, energetic bodies, emotional bodies, mental bodies and spiritual bodies, which are all fed by what we are consuming.
Be extremely careful about whose opinions you put above your own intelligence, deciding that others know better what you do. Everything that enters inside you must be as pure as you are if you want to stay that way. Be very careful what comparisons you make, and what opinions you swallow and follow. Your inner intelligence is here to guide you every step of the way if you listen to it. If only you slow down and silence your mind enough.
Take great care about who you let in your space. How many people are using you as a garbage bag to throw their problems, insecurities and fears on you, because you are too nice to listen? How many fears do you adopt from others, and how much drama do you entertain?
Fear of making mistakes
Let’s say we manage to see beyond the influence, let’s say we feel like we have some intuition that we want to follow. What often time arises is doubt, is the fear of making a mistake, of taking the wrong path, making the wrong choice and failing. But let’s think about it for a second. No one here sees the future. Not even people who claim that they do. Some people see several potential outcomes, but we do not know which one will become the reality until the last moments. Second, no one knows what is a good decision for you to make, except you.
And it even happens very often, that when you feel that you should follow some path, your whole family and friends will suddenly advise you otherwise.
The Universe will test your faith.
And it will test your faith again and again. You said you wanted something. You said you wanted to quit your job. Very well. How determined are you to do it? Will the first person passing change your mind? Will the opinions of people you love change your mind? Who will you follow?
Of course, do not fall to the other extreme, to do whatever you please, without looking at the consequences of it to you and others around you.
If you spend enough time clearing your mind, sitting with yourself, opening your heart and listening to the guidance, you will get the answer. But remember that when in fear your mind is clouded and you are closing all your channels. Address your fears before making any decision, look at the worst possible outcomes, and ask how likely they are to occur. Ask whether they are holding you back from your highest potential. And if they are, let them go.
The art of letting go
The art of surrendering, of letting go of drama is a lifetime practice. It is very counterintuitive in today’s society, but it is what is asked of us right now, so we should start learning about it. Recently a colleague of mine told me :
I know I should let go, but I have no idea how to do it.
At first, I was surprised by her answer, but thinking about it, it feels perfectly logical. Did someone in your life teach you how to let go? Did someone in school teach you how to let go? Did your parents know how to let go? Did social media teach you how to let go? The chances are high that they did not. Because very few know how.
I am not pretentious enough to say I will teach you in those few lines how to surrender. I am far from being proficient at it myself. But I will share some insight I got when I was asking my inner intelligence how to do it.
The steps go as follows:
You soften up, you open, you drop everything you know to start to see the truth and when you do, stay firmly in your faith.
Let’s dissect it, shall we? You soften up, you open up, you drop everything you know. These words seem like the worst nightmare for a lot of us who are used to analysing everything with our intellect, to rely on our knowledge without getting the heart too much involved. It is profoundly scary to open up because God knows what monsters can attack us if we do! Who would want to be vulnerable? Well, if you want to stop being stressed and burned out all the time, you would.
So any practice is good for this, you are lucky that the world is now full of these practices, doing stretching, pilates, yoga, whatever kind of breathwork, meditation, going for a walk, journaling, prayers, anything that allows you to stop the automatic course of your mind. Ideally, all of these, depending on how much time you have and are willing to give to yourself. Anything that allows you to be led, to let the control go, even if it is 10 minutes a day. If you habitually do this without any expectation, your system will start to harmonise.
You drop everything you know. You humble down enough to admit that there is a lot you do not know. That if you are overcontrolling everything, you are limiting God’s ability to help you, to show you new, unique ways of doing you didn’t see yourself. Because our perspective is limited. And we better take this as a fact.
We then start to see the truth. If we calm our minds, if we quiet our agenda, if we quiet our complaints, we can get insights. Once again, do not expect anything. Just realise how much resistance arises if you try to calm down. You may hear this little voice saying, “I have better things to do”, “This is stupid”, “I believe only what I see”, “You do not know how hard this is for me” etc. Free to you to follow the voice or quiet the voice. And if you hear nothing, you are blocking your senses with your fear, so find it and work with it.
And if you have insight, now is the time to get firm about it. But not without softening up beforehand. If you are firm from the beginning, you will get very rigid in your beliefs and will tend to persuade everyone around you that you are right. Being firm means that now you choose to trust, you choose whether you act on it or not, but if you choose that you do, do not question it anymore. Let the doubt go. Act from the love that you got from your higher intelligence. And this way, even if you make a mistake, you know that you acted to the best of your abilities, and you know that it is an opportunity to grow.
It is not something that the world is particularly praising nowadays, but without mistakes, you will stay where you are forever.
Our faith is being tested.
So quit. Quit what is polluting you. Quit what is stressing you. Choose who you let influence you wisely.
Have faith that everything will be taken care of. Realise that you are infinitely important in the eyes of God.
Choose your peace every day.
Show yourself.
That is all God is waiting for.
Thank you wholeheartedly,
Gabriela
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